So I thought I would start this Blog off keeping it mild mannered. Tonight I want to talk about the state of our community and the family unit that most people are familiar with. When I was a kid I grew up primarily in a smaller community where everyone knew each others names. Everyone gave to each other and that made it easier for everyone to get through the things that we would face. I stop and look at the world around me now and it makes me sad to see that state of our communities. Most people live in a community where they may know their neighbor's names. That is probably the extent of it though. When I go out here in Orlando the lack of respect that I see people showing each other is astonishing. People can and do call me old fashion, or too traditional. If the things that I do make me old fashion, then thank the lord for traditions. For example, the next time you are out at a restaurant or a shopping center just stand and watch how many people never stop to hold the door for anyone else. I realize we live in a constant state of movement and flux but that is no excuse for having no common courtesy. Stop for a minute and think about how often you really see people saying please and thank you for the things that people do for them.
Now the more important thing is where does this breakdown come from? I personally think there are several contributing factors. I think that families do not act like families anymore. Now obviously this does not apply to every family but in general families and people's thoughts of what a family is seem to be way off base to me. Ask yourself this. How often do I turn off the television, sit down and the table, and have dinner with my family? There is nothing on the television that is more important than that quality time. Now don't get me wrong, I love dinner and a movie night, or eating while watching a football game. Those things in and of themselves are bonding experiences for a family. But entirely to many families do not sit down and have meals together anymore.
While this seems small it is just a piece of the puzzle that is causing our society as a whole to degenerate. From what I have noticed entirely to many parents seem to have forgotten what it means to be a mom or dad. It takes one drunken night to become a parent. Hell you don't even need that anymore with advances that we have in technology. But it takes effort to be a parent. To take the time to behave in a manner consistent with teaching your children good values, how to behave, how to treat the people around them in the world. Entirely too many children have no sense of responsibility. The children and probably half the adults in our society feel a sense of entitlement not responsibility. To many people sit around with a hand out waiting for someone to give them something instead of getting out there and earning it. The ultimate responsibility for this problem falls on the shoulders of the parents.
How is it we can live in a country with the technology and power that we have, yet we still have people living in the streets, children with no real education, some that can't even read or write. My mother and father used to sit me down and make me do my homework every night. They taught me the value of an education and showed me that I had to work to get the things out of life that I wanted. That it was okay to take a little help if you need it but to only take as much as you need and to do everything in your power to get to a point you do not need it anymore. Yes, the blame for how your children behave, what they learn, and what they do not learn falls on your head mothers and fathers of the world. Change starts with you. When your child does something wrong instead of immediately blaming someone else for what they have done, stop and ask yourself what can I do different to teach them not to do this anymore. Now I'm not saying to let them get away with it. I think that punishment is natural and normal when children misbehave. But if your child does not do well in school, do not go up to the school and blame it on the teachers for your child not learning or failing a class. Did you sit down with your child and help them learn? Did you take the extra time to review their studies for the week with them to make sure they understood? If it means taking an extra two hours with them and then meeting with the teachers as well, do it. It's your responsibility. I can't tell you how many teachers I know that would love to have parents who get engaged in their child's education. There are way more good teachers that care than teachers that don't. Let's stop making excuses and start making changes people.
I think this is enough for tonight. As you can see I have a tendency to get off on a tangent sometimes. Look for my next post soon. There is more than enough bad things out there to talk about....